5 years of dating still no ring / GRWM / CHIT CHAT / Every day makeup look / MountainsOfBeauty
Years later he said it was a promise he would always love me. He now refuses to even answer me if I ask about future plans. He is always on his phone but doesnt respond to me. We are 7 yrs in our relationship and when I say I respect any decision he makes and still nothing.
Dear Sybersue ~ I have been Dating my Boyfriend for 4 years and Still no Wedding Ring! What Gives?
We dont go out on dates unless its weeks after my birthday. When he works out of town where he stays in hotels and managed all women employees, I would hear from him for days. He says at least we helped eachother if anything. I left a bad relationship prior to him. And he knows that. And every time I fix a reason why he will even say we are committed and will make it through anything not necessarily marriage he makes another reason.
I just want closure and let him go. Or to be told we got this and move forward. He gets defensive if I wear certain clothes now where as before he was so sweet and charming. Im not accepted on his social media and any little thing sets him off.
How do I ask what he wants without causing anger? He only has said it depends on of we get along. But he gets mad so easily now. He has no kids but when I offered to pay to have one he chose other things. He is in his late 30s and I just need advice. And yes this Is embarrassing. He knew wk 2 I wanted marriage and kids bc I was up front.
He was separated 2 yrs when we met and finally was able to get a divorce last year. We have lived together the whole time since problem 1. His mom even asked on multiple occasions and he said we were getting married.
He promised end of Still no proposal. He promises we are getting married and having children, but still no proposal. I brought it up again tonight after he had worked 12 hrs. I even told him mos ago just get me a fake ring idc you can get me something better down the road. He talks about the future, but still no proposal. Saying that out loud is so embarrassing!!! I love him so much but love myself more. Well with so many women nowadays that are so very picky and looking for Mr.
Perfect which definitely has a lot to do with it today, especially when many women now want men with a lot of money. This is a really useful post.
I have been going through the same thing for 7 years. Promises that never took place. Him disappearing on me for weeks. Why on earth would someone non stop tell you to move in with them and at the same time within a couple of days say it was just a thought. Over the years I have changed as a person. Its like I do not care anymore. And I want to leave him, but it is hard. Why didnt he tell me from the beginning he was just fooling around. I mean we are both over Why must I put in all the effort all the time.
Then suddenly he will make a joke about proposing and once again he will say oh it was merely a thought. So now I have resorted telling him I will not move in with him anymore and no marriage as well. He wants to stay single to see others behind my back, then go ahead. Still, I find it hard to walk away. And in the end women like us are mentally screwed. I have decided once this is done if it is ever going to get there, I do not want to date ever again. Well at least reading these, I dont feel so dumb.
Dating for 3 years and no ring
Others are in the same boat. He knows I want to get married and just goes silent when I try to talk about it. The most he says is, he just doesnt want to get married again. Wont give a reason.
Hard to leave after so many years, what seem to be wasted years. I talk about moving, and he doesnt even suggest living together. I guess I know what I need to do, but its so hard. Why Marriage so freaking important to tell everyone they are committed to someone.
The love and loyalty you share with someone is 1st priority. But if it is important to one or both, then you need to respect that and recognize the importance. The thing is Mandy, women give. They put in financially eyc. They have their own homes too. So taking care of 2 households because he wont move in or let you move in is financially destructive for women. So is feeling used. And once there is a break up, he is secure as she maintained a lot whereas she lost so much money especially if over And you cannot claim it back.
I suggest to women ja, date him but pay only your share nothing else. You be amazed how many men then walk away. I was very open in the beginning advising him I will like to be married again. I was previously married for 8 years and it ended.
The interesting thing about this situation is he has three kids 4,7 and 25 by three different women.
I have a child of my own 13 and do not want anymore children. All of his relationships have been anywhere from years with no marriages. Keep in mind this man is 48 and I am Just need some advice.
Thank you so much for this article! I have bin with my man for almost 10 years I have had to watch my friends and family one by one walk down the aisle and it has caused me a great deal of pain. We lived together for 5 years, and were together for 6 years. In summer I said: 6 months to think - lets get married or lets break up.
One year after break up he wrote me letters, we talked In spetember he proposed to our common friend and in he married her!!!
Jun 14, - At least that's what I told my now husband on year five of our dating relationship. Meanwhile, my husband was enjoying our dating relationship, felt no urge to get your sister's engagement ring or send your man articles showing the . 3 Reasons He Hasn't Proposed Yet (That Aren't Red Flags for Your. after years of being together, when will he pop that question and put a ring on it so Hell some of you might have been dating a guy for only a few months and still 3. He feels too PRESSURED and not EMPOWERED enough to make the However, it doesn't matter if we are talking Masculine or Feminine no one. May 16, - Being engaged for years is no solution either. I can't Hi, I've been in a 3 year relationship with a man. .. 7 years no ring and I'm miserable.
We broke up a few years back due to disagreements of marriage and when. We got back together with a compromise but 3 years later still nothing. Reason being we need to be financially ready- meaning a house. We ended up moving for my job and getting close to buying a house, only to have him relocate for a promotion in his job.
What hurts is he has to think about it. Please help! Been waiting since year 3. He had me pick out a really affordable ring. We got pregnant which was fine at the time because we were getting engaged anyhow. It never happened. If I could go back I would have left when I found out.
I feel all alone like a single mom except for finances. At baby shower I felt ridiculous without that ring and him being there. At the babies birth I debated not having him there. I ended up giving the baby his last name. Huge mistake. Our son is almost two now. Since his birth I have no stopped asking him when when when. He looks at me quietly. He insists we are getting married.
Feb 5, - been Dating my Boyfriend for 4 years and Still no Wedding Ring! We have been living together for 3 years and get along really well. Sadly, there has been no conversation regarding any future plans since that time. Jul 1, - There's no rulebook or strategy when it comes to dating someone and You could date for three months before getting a burn in your stomach that You could date for six years and feel too chill about making any sudden. If you were dating someone you wanted to marry, how long would you wait for the ring The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is.
Nothing ever happens. Last year his aunts embarrassed me putting me on he spot calling me his wife and asking when the wedding was. Our son was a few months then. And the year before I was there 7 months pregnant! Why is he even with me???
Thousands of dollars. This would seem fine if A. If you want me to be a true single mom then get out of my house! I feel so stuck here. I feel used! Like he used my body as a baby factory for him! Forget women using men and trapping them by getting pregnant. This is the other way around! He insists he will prooose by then.
About 3 years 9 months of os dating, I was still living with my parents and a cheap-ish apartment (for NYC standards) was coming on the market. I told him about. Rich woman and still no ring, and what i did the boy who is single and future talk was about 3 signs he 3 years! First of marriage is 18 months. I am moving on it. Dec 6, - Three years into our relationship, we're happy and both envision a future How can I help him feel ready or at least find some way to embrace uncertainty without sabotaging what I do have? a future with you, but here you are, three years in, with a bare ring finger. 3) He does not feel financially secure.
He also said he would propose back at my bday in September. We are both 34 and he wants another baby! I said no sorry no way it will happen. I found this article because I am searching for answers. I am dating my biyfriends for almost 1. We talked about concerns we have. Sounds like we both want to get married and have a family, he defiantly wants to have kids. The key here is my age! I am almost 40, so the time is very critical for having kids he states he wants kids for sure!5 years of dating still no ring / GRWM / CHIT CHAT / Every day makeup look / MountainsOfBeauty
The longer we date the less chance I can get pregnant! I mentioned few times but he seems no rush! Any suggestions? We began our relationship at a rocky time in our lives, when we both had just graduated college and the economy was horrendous. That doesn't do much good for either of you. The first thing you want to find out is what is holding him back. It sounds like he feels that you are The One but is resistant to taking that leap into matrimony. There are a few common reasons why men are sometimes slow to pull the trigger in situations like this.
Once you figure out which is the culprit, you'll have a better handle on how to move forward. You may feel as though his professional and personal lives are intertwining but distinct paths that shouldn't dictate each other's timelines, while he may consider the two to be one linear path. If money is what's holding him back, sit down together and see where you can cut back expenses as a couple. Perhaps you can eat at home more often, go on fewer vacations, or find a less expensive apartment when your lease expires.
Of course, there is also the possibility that he's undecided about whether he sees marriage in his future with you. Is there an aspect of your relationship that gives him serious pause? It sounds like this is not the case, but make sure that when you talk about your "future" together, your definitions of that word match. Others are all about long-term commitment but take issue with the legal institution of marriage. Have you discussed the possibility of children?
Is he comfortable when these topics naturally come up? He needs to do that healing regardless of whether of not he ever gets married.
In the meanwhile, don't forget to focus on yourself. Too often, in merging lives with our significant other, we lose our sense of self. Continue to grow emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Nurture your friendships. Pursue your own career goals and aspirations. You never want to feel like someone married you because you threatened to leave them. A proposal is a developmental step in a relationship.