When I met my boyfriend Jesse, I was 28 and he was 24 - not too much of a dating age difference in the grand scheme of things, but to hear some of my friends at the time tell it, you'd think we were Harold and Maude - or at the very least, Ashton and Demi. In the early days of our relationship, I got a lot of a lot of exasperated eyerolls, "you go, girl"s, and questions about whether I was technically old enough to be a cougar. I also had a lot of friends who couldn't believe how dumb I was - didn't I remember how difficult it was to get a guy to commit at age 24? Why would I want to go through that again? But the experience has made me think about how women are discouraged from dating younger men - especially women in their twenties. Although the idea of a "cougar " who dates much younger men has a certain cultural cachet, being a woman in your twenties who simply chooses a partner who's a bit younger is often viewed as weird, desperate, or deluded - basically, anything besides what it is, which is totally normal. People have a much easier time, it seems, getting on board with the idea of a woman taking a younger partner for purely sexual reasons than they do with the idea of a woman in a serious relationship with a younger partner.
Age Gaps In Relationships: 5 Reasons Why You Should Be Dating A Younger Guy!
There are the perks, such as his optimism, the simplicity of the relationship and the excitement he has for pretty much anything. It's nice to be reminded to have fun every once a while, especially when it's with someone I care so much about. Whether this be the general stereotype of a woman or specific to an older woman, men can sometimes treat us like their mothers. To be honest, I iron things with my hair straightener and only do laundry when I run out of underwear. What makes my boyfriend think I will be better about his? I really don't understand why younger guys are fixated on who their girlfriends dated four years ago, or why they would even want to hear about them.
I love men. It really is ALL about you, ladies! The vast majority of these guys are not the self-centered, testosterone-led, immature boys you met and maybe married in your 20s or 30s. They have matured. Thank goodness, right? The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story. Here are some of their stories of dating after 40; dating that never turned into relationships, this is.